How important is sexual intimacy in marriage

This is an ongoing topic that I have with men and women daily and that is how important is the sex in your marriage. The underlining answer is usually the same and that is when sex is good and frequent it is not much of an issue, but when it is not good or frequent it becomes a sore spot in the marriage. In fact it becomes an open door for cheating and divorce, many couples get to the point in the marriage where they just don't know how to get the sex in the marriage going again. In many ways they feel like their spouse has just become their roommate and they no longer know that person anymore. What are the best steps to renewing the marriage and figuring out how to get the intimacy back with your spouse? The best way is to acknowledge that there is a problem to begin with. Once both people in the marriage acknowledge that the sex is a problem then they can begin to work on it. The best place to start is with a marriage counselor that can help the couple get back into the marriage, if one spouse has a decreased libido and that is the problem then that spouse needs to try and get their libido back through counseling and sexual aid. The bottom line is if you are in an unhappy in your marriage don't wait for the marriage to get better on its own take charge and lay the cards out on the table, at this point what do you really have to lose.