A Few Thoughts on Healing from Infidelity

This is one of the most painful experiences a couple can endure. Here are a few thoughts on the most helpful ways to get through this horrendous ordeal:

1) Cease the affair (this may seem obvious - but sometimes "obvious" is better off stated)

2) The partner who has been unfaithful be willing to apologize as many times as needed - as sincerely as possible as well. They need to take responsibility for wounding their partner - and the relationship.

3) Allow the partner who has been hurt his/her feelings which may appear erratic and unrelenting.

4) Know that it takes time - sometimes a long time - and settle in for the work together.

It is possible to find emotional safety together again.

Warmly,
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT