3 Keys to Experience Deeper Connection in Your Marriage
2. Take 100% Responsibility -- While it might seem logical to take 50% responsibility for the relationship, in my experience that's a recipe for disaster. That usually means you are keeping score of what you did and they didn't do. Are your efforts based on what you think your partner is or isn't doing? Do you wait for them to go first because they owe you?
Decide today what you want your relationship to ultimately be like. What do you want the day to day interaction with your partner to feel like? What type of deep connection do you want to experience with them?
Have a clear vision for the relationship and take 100% responsibility for making it real. Don't wait for them. Own your vision and contribute fully to making it happen, because that will shift how they respond to you. (continue to page 3 of 3...).
Nice tips Jeff, some of them I actually apply daily.
I want to share my story about how I was dating a guy who wasn't from "league", he was handsome, rich and any girl would fall in love with him. But I managed to steal his heart, with my own personality, being honest, real and not pretending to be someone else.
Of course we had our ups and downs, but one thing I learned from my marriage (yes yes we got married after 2 years of dating) is that you have to compromise. The person that is with you, doesn't actually belong to you. It's not your toy, he just shares every day of this life with you. You have to be happy that you are actually healthy, sane and alive to live this life, and also have someone else - who shares it with you.
The funny thing is that I actually learned this from him, when he got a bit sick, he was so grateful that there is someone near him (He wasn't that pride of himself guy out of my league). And I wasn't there for his beauty or anything else, I was there because I loved him how he is, that he is with me, sharing this life with me.
Compromise and love every minute of it - even when you are fighting your husband:) You are blessed to be healthy and alive!
It's like part of the missing manual we all need.
Thanks, Jeff. Just sent this link to someone I really care about.
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